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Have you ever wanted to bring people around to your way of thinking? Maybe it was at work, or when you were out with friends, maybe it was with your spouse or boyfriend. Years ago a man by the name of Dale Carnegie wrote a book on how to make people like you and do what you want. In it he gave tips that have stood the test of time. This article is part two of the article series on how to influence people and get them to listen to you. Here are some more of Mr. Carnegie's pieces of wisdom.

Get the person familiar with saying the word "Yes". In the beginning of this article I wrote a question that I knew would make you say "yes" in your head. When you want a person to be influenced by you begin with asking them "yes" questions so that they get used to saying a positive answer to your inquiries.

You have two ears and one mouth for a reason. You should let the other person do most of the talking, you should do most of the listening. Encourage them to talk and tell you everything about a certain situation. Remember when the other person's mouth is moving you are the one in control.

Ask questions that get the other person thinking. You should let the other person come up with the solution to the problem. What he or she doesn't know though is that they are taking credit for your solution. Gear your questions so that the only logical answer is to think of the idea that you are proposing. When a person thinks the idea is theirs they will believe in it and fight for it.

Dramatize your ideas so that they become real to the other person. Explain how particularly awful a certain situation is and how your solution is the only possible remedy. Throw down a challenge, let them know your idea is better and you are willing to put it to the test.

These are a few great ideas you can use when you want to get others to listen to what you are saying and be influenced by it. There are many more great ideas you can use. Humans act upon emotion, not logic most of the time. So when you use these techniques you become quite a powerful influence upon them.

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At the point after breakup, you tend to bombard yourself with a lot of questions. Where did it go wrong? This is basically a phase of the after math. You undergo a denial stage where you basically cannot accept yet what has been happening. You tend to assume that things are all the same. Hoping that this is just a simple conflict.

Days and weeks later, without compromise, you realize that things are just not the same, nothing is quite the same. That's when you result to anger. Later on, you get into a bargaining stage where you tend to be needy and begging for your ex back no matter what it takes. When things don't go well, you undergo depression. Weeks and weeks of frustration and sulking around looking for answers. And then, finally, after a specific time of moving on, you finally accept the outcome.

The stages of grieving for a loss love is a cycle, one way or another, you will eventually get depress when you don't get your ex back. What really went wrong? What could have been done that would have made a difference? These are just questions that you need to figure out before you move on. There are actually a lot of compensation necessary to get your ex back. Both parties are responsible for making compromises to work things out.

When you feel like your partner loves you less, do not make it control you. You should control the situation. A good communication between two people is a key to a healthy relationship. Speak out to be heard, and listen to understand. Ask questions and make your communication a lot more open. When you know what upsets your girlfriend/boyfriend, you will definitely know what would make things work out for the best.

After a breakup, get yourselves to talk openly about each other, knowing where you went wrong and what made your lover unhappy will be a great factor as a medium of change. And this should take place immediately before the moving one phase. Do not wait until your ex gets over you, there will be nothing left to put back the pieces.

If you want to get your ex back, change is a must. We all need to make a difference to get a better outcome without present situation. A conflict between two parties is never impossible to amend without good communication. Keeping your mind open to what he/she wants and the willingness to change after listening will surely make you get your ex back.

Do you know that co-dependent needy behaviour can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviours, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self confident, self assured, whole, complete, empowered, worthy and of course attractive just to name a few? So how does one do that you ask?

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Hundreds of case studies have shown that negative memories which are at the root of all needy co-dependent behaviours actually distort one's perception of themselves i.e. who they are, what they are capable of and essentially hypnotize them into believing and feeling like weak, helpless, empty, unlovable, unwanted, unacceptable, unattractive and needy immature children. It turns out however that this "false persona" is exactly that i.e. a "lie" about who they are.

It's much like an actor who forgets to stop playing their role when they come off stage and forgets who they really are. It's only when something twigs in their mind that makes them realize they are still playing a role that they wake up from that role and become themselves. In other words it's like waking up from a hypnotic trance or a bad dream.

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Breaking up with your lover is an extremely painful experience, but there are situations that can make it seem much worse. Occasionally, after separating you might find out your best friend is in a rebound relationship with your ex. You feel confused, hurt and disappointed with your friend. Obviously when you are no longer a couple, you cannot expect your ex not to see other people, but your best friend with your ex? How can you deal with this?

Here are a few things you can do if you find yourself in this situation:

Confide In Someone

Because this is still upsetting to you and it being so soon after your break up, find someone you can confide and share how you are feeling. The last thing you want or need to do right now is to bottle it or deny what is happening. It will only make things worse for you and you run the risk of the distress and stress of this situation causing you physical symptoms as well as emotional distress. If you have someone you can trust, talking and crying about it will help you enormously and give you clarity to work through it.

Release Your Feelings

While you think that you should be able to deal with this new turn of events in a calm and adult manner, you will still feel a bubbling up of emotions, some of which will be anger and hurt. Even though it is all over between you, there is a time frame apart before either of you starts seeing someone else that seems appropriate and for your ex to jump right in with your best friend... it just does not seem right! So blow out the cobwebs and go to the gym and release some of those hurt angry feelings. Get them out of your system by releasing them and expressing them in a safe and healthy way.

Rethink Your Friendship

You may be tempted to rethink your friendship with your best friend, but don't be in a hurry to write them off too quickly. Did you stipulate to your friend that you did not want them to go out with your ex? How would your friend be feeling right now? Is it worth losing what was an otherwise good relationship over someone you are not going out with and that they may not be either in a few months time? Take your time before you make a decision about your friendship with them and just wait and see what happens.

Apart from the breaking up with your ex breaking your heart, the last thing you need is to find out is that your best friend is in a rebound relationship with your ex. Even though it is not the ideal situation, you can deal with it as you apply some of the remedies above.

It is natural to feel upset and angry about it and the best thing to do is to get it out, talk about it with someone you can trust and release the pent-up feelings in a safe and constructive way. This will help you make the right decision about your friend with a clear head.

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Most people don't realize it but getting an ex boyfriend back is actually pretty easy as long as you follow some simple guidelines. First you have to answer the question "why did we break up?". Then come up with a plan of action to get back with the boyfriend. But most important is to stick to the plan of action. It won't do you or him or anyone any good to just get him back for a few days or a week or two. Learning how to stop a break up is an ongoing task and should always be something you're thinking about.

We have all been through it, so we all know that sometimes it just doesn't work out the way we expected. Winning a boyfriend back takes effort and compromise. Expecting to get him back without compromising is just fooling yourself. Granted don't give in too much or he will lose respect for you but give in a little at least. Getting him back is just the first step as well, you have to learn how to stop a break up from happening again. Be prepared next time and don't let it happen except on your terms, not his.

Getting an ex boyfriend back is something that takes time and effort. It won't happen overnight but when it does happen you have to be ready for it. Don't make the same mistakes as before, don't let him make the same mistakes. Getting a boyfriend back is worth it only if you can hold onto him after you get him back. Otherwise it was a waste of your time and his. Don't let that be the case. Make it worthwhile for the both of you.

Sometimes getting a boyfriend back is all about learning a new skill Make no mistake though, it IS a skill that can be learned. Learn how to stop a break up today.